Where to begin...

...Oh yes

First off, what in the name of all that is holy would compel you to share something, not only as personal as this, but as vile and disgusting as this, with as many people on the internet that take the time(much wasted) to read it?!?!

Secondly... the woman is either stupid, simple or slow, maybe all of the above, to even consider the possibility of thinking about forgiveness, and I think she deserves some sort violent impact to the head to knock any sense she may or may not have into her.

and Thirdly, let me give you a hypathetical, bear with me for a moment if you will, lets just say it is in any way at all okay that she forgives you(don't get me wrong...it's NOT!) If she was any kind of intelligent she wouldn't simply ask that you change your email, she should...simply.. break the bloody computer monitor over your thick, unfaithful head, maybe then you'll be too brain dead to think about cheating again.

and Finally, infidelity to me is the worst thing known to anything, and those who forgive it are sometimes worse than the offender, that in no way justifies you, I am simply saying you both deserve each other, at least now those of us who still have the common sense we were born with, have 2 less idiots to worry about running into!

oh yea...thanks for sharing

Solo.

this site isn't for begging for forgiveness. It is for writers who want to get their work looked at and critiqued. This however is a confession and an apology note. Grow up and own up to what you did on someone else's time. By the way, I do not think you are a horrible person and I am not trying to be mean but... I do think that you need help on many levels one of which being maturity.

um... wow... heavy baggage. Not to judge but this gave me a stomach ache. Why you would post this on the internet is beyond me considering what you did was so shameful. This little piece of writing is disrespectful to your wife and it is disrespectful to your child or children and disrespectful to every woman on this site who ever believed that you could meet someone on the internet that didnt have alterior motives and wasnt a filthy liar... and I don't care if she told you to. I just don't understand... and there is no explanation... you can't explain why you did those things and there is nothing and no one else to blame but yourself. This makes me sick and it makes me sad... Screw a well rounded critique.

i'd like to say to all of those who have said what a horrible person vasco is. I don't believe he is, i believe that we've all made our mistakes in our lives and that we shouldn't judge each other on whether our mistakes are worse than someone elses. I truly forgive Vasco, if some of you think he is a horrible person i believe that all people are good deep down some just have trouble showing that. I would like to say to those of you who think he's horrible that he really isn't and if you can't forgive him think of something horrendous that you've done which someone close to you has fogiven you for. Mel

If the only reason you stopped was because you were caught, you aren't going to stop for long. Don't try to change just so you won't lose your wife--it won't work. You won't change. And it's likely you won't keep her, either.

What you did was wrong. Ask yourself if you care. Seriously consider it. Perhaps you don't. If you don't, the rest of this writing doesn't apply to you.

But if you do, then don't rely on willpower. Instead, figure out why you did it and construct a plan to meet those needs some other way. Your first idea as to why you did it may not be accurate. Your first plan may fail. That may be a time to consider again whether you truly mind being someone who does immoral things. Be sure you do, because truly changing will be difficult. But if you do want to, don't give up. Just keep trying to understand your behavior and make plans for change based on that understanding. It make take dozens of theories and plans. It may take years. You wife may be long gone by the time you make any progress. But eventually one of your plans will succeed.

Mine did.

Vasco, I don't really know how to say this, it is some adive that my mama gave to me when I was little. She found me one day, after I had done some truly horrible things, writing on paper over and over "I hate myself". I am not saying what you did ws not wrong, but that you should never hate yourself is what she told me. This also goes for you. Smile, there will be better days for you and your family if you work hard enough at it!

holly crap...

My Lord, you are the biggest **. Your wife would be a very stupid woman not to leave you. Do you have any idea how much you hurt another human being who loved you. That woman will have psychological problems for life, she may never trust men again. She is also the mother of your child. You are going to hell my friend. I hope you get what you deserve: a lot of pain.

Just a note: when i said forgiving without a care, i didnt mean thw wife, i meant the woman on the internet, mainly. But anyway, lets not generalise. Im off, farewell

Thank god for truth. Sorry, but i really detest that kind of deception. Its revolting. You marry someone for love, and if you wake up and feel you need to live another life on the internet to get away, then you should re-consider how strong that love really is. Quite frankly, If I met someone on the internet who disrespected their wife and claimed to love me, Id be disgusted. And to forgive them without a care? Really shows how weak humanity is now days doesnt it. The world is a scary place. I just wish we could all grow up and realise where we are and what time it is. Thanks for letting me ramble, sorry for any inconvienience and regards to your wife.

Ois Vasco.
Passei so pra dar o meu apoio e o desejo de que corra tudo bem =)
Miguel.

I don't usually use the review function, but WE FORGIVE YOU. We all do.

your a right old twit, using women, I DONT like you.

Vasco,
Sometimes I wonder if honesty is the best policy, seeing that I usually get punished for it - lol. But, it really is and it's important to stay true to yourself. This is only the first step. Her finding out won't stop you from doing it again. You are filling a void - and unless you both heal and fully forgive each other, temptation is always around the corner. I hope you two can work it out. :)

Thanks for writing that. It explains a lot. I forgive you.