Your standards are NOT astronomical. It will take a bit to find your perfect girl but it is possible; in-fact, I am not far off from your standards and i know a few other people that are close to your standards. Plus, you seem to be very respectful towards women which will help you in the long run. Everyone has someone that is perfect for them its just a matter of finding them.

This is what I want to be so my boyfriend would be happy. But then that's not right, is it? Haha. Hope you find your girl. I'll be on the lookout for my perfect guy.

Okay, so once again I read what you wrote and what others said in reply. In reply to everyone, I say that your standards are not astronomical. They are totally conceivable. It just might take you a while to fit your standards though. I mean, you might be golden on the inside, but it takes a while for everything to settle down and come together. I know that as I grow older, I fit the person I thought I was even more. I'm growing into the person I wanted to be. I've always had high standards for a guy too, but now I'm only starting to deserve some of it. She'll be there but you have to grow up a bit first. You have to be worthy. And you will be, if you keep trying, keep thinking, keep reflecting. And learn to wait. Wait for it.

Ok, I'm sorry, but somehow I don't think you'll find your 'perfect girl' but I guess no one will ever really find their perfect person, hopefully we can all come close though. It was well written I guess. The end is cute. I guess we all keep looking even though we know we might not find them.

Damn. In other words, you want the feminine version of God. Or a Mary Sue. It's only fair, I guess; we girls demand a lot in our "Ode to Nice Guys," which is sort of analogous to this except for not really.

The only suggestion I have is to spell out "okay." Your current preference peeves the heck out of me.

Well this is an interesting work, as it seemed oddly familiar to a description of myself. Perhaps I am being conceited.I myself, have long red hair, though perhaps not a deep auburn red, but everyone desires my color. Freckles on both cheeks and more. I wear reading glasses, though they're not square, nor do they slide down my nose (the nose pieces grip lol). I do my best to be kind and compassionate (the other day a friend of mine told me about some baby ducklings he had 'accidentally' run over and I burst into tears). I think I'm intelligent (nearly straight A's would dictate it in book smarts). I don't actually know the meaning of esoteric (perhaps I should look it up?) but I'm open minded to learning new things. I like role playing games (perhaps not table, but computer and masquerade role playing), I enjoy video games (not all but some). Perhaps I shouldn't even be responding to your writing this way because I am in a relationship that I cherish, but I just thought you should know that your description bears an astonishing resemblance to myself. Good work. lol

Do you want the world with all that? It's a lot to be wishing for. Still pretty thought provoking, i might do my perfect Boy...

It's nice to know that guys have standards. I mean, there are a lot of guys who seem to fall for any pretty face. In my mind, your perfect girl has standards set that are as close to you as yours are to hers. I have to admit that very few males of the species do not seem to enjoy a good intelectual conversation, or to believe in any sort of chivalry. Your essay was very refreshing to someone like me, who is tired of waiting for someone(up to her standards)she has decided doesn't have a chance of existing, and tired of seeing her friends continually pair off. Even if your perfect girl doesn't have red hair or freckles, you'll know her when you see her. Trust me, I know she exists.

i'm probably only repeating what you've already hear here, but i feel i must say it. first off, i sincerely hope you do find your perfect girl; no doubt she's out there somewhere. to those who'll say "what makes you deserve her?" -a few points. one, some of the things you're concerned with say quite clearly that you would really care about her, and i think that's basically answer enough. but also, there's a good quote from a movie i particularly like...see if i can remember it. "you don't deserve a woman like her." "Father, if we men married the women we deserved, we'd have a rough time of it." i liked that.

so basically there's just one thing to watch out for...your desires may change, or you may not recognize their fulfillment at first. so don't make the mistake of holding girls up to this image...someday you'll find the perfect girl, and you'll come back and look at this and be amazed to realize that the girl you've actually found is even better than the one you imagined.

Following your suggestion, I did in fact read this work (the second draft, at least) and found it very interesting, but I find your concept a bit extreme. Not your notion for a perfect woman, as I feel that each and every person does have some idea of the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with, but the fact that she exists at all. You have a delightful fantasy, which is perfect for just that, fantasy. It's my belief that every man should have an ideal, a dream, to hold close to his heart and believe in, but also that the purpose of this dream is to never come true. Everyone eventually tires of what they have seen before, and the wonder of the event, action or person will fade in time, replaced by something else. Whatever goal one sets for him or herself, it must not be reached or it will be replaced with a new dream. What you have effectively done is ensure that (because you have so specifically identified the person you want to be with) whomever you DO end up with will always be second best to a fantasy that cannot be true. If this dream girl were to exist, you would tire of her quickly, as she would never be as fantastic as you dream, or even if she was, you would quickly tire and fantasize about another person, perhaps a blonde this time. I do not mean to crush a dream, but simply to offer another possible view you may wish to consider.

Aw. That was so sweet. Very nice! I wish all guys were as honest as you. :3 You totally deserve your "perfect" girl.

I liked this.

All I have to say is, don't spend too much time looking through blinders for this perfect girl and ignoring others around you that are more perfect than you may expect. In my case, I recently found somebody that I love more than I have ever loved anybody before, that is so amazingly perfect for me, that same person though a year ago, i wouldn't have even considered, because i had known him for a long time, but hadn't gotten a real chance to know him yet.

You may have some high standards but I believe there has to be a girl out there like that for you. Good luck!

carry on looking! i am sure u will find her 1 day! :)

I hope you do, I really do. Because I have found mine. It is amazing, just knowing the love you feel for them is coming back in return; from all different directions.

Excellent essay. Well written, and something I hadn't expected, I suppose. Enjoyed whole-heartedly.

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