realistically you are the one destroying your family cause you are doing nothing

You need to tell your mother how you feel. Unfortunately, it does not appear you know what to do. Hopefully your mother is the warm motherly type- if time alone with her is important to you just tell her. The best time to do this is right before you go to bed- unless the dude is in your house. When you are tired you are more open- this is why parents like to pester their children before bedtime with questions. Just remember there is nothing more important than family. In the end it is all we have. Divorced mothers usually don't marry for pleasure- they remarry a husband who will be a good example for their children and someone their children like. Does not sound like this dude fits the profile. I do not want to assume your mother is selfish. The true issue here is either she is selfish or you have a communication issue. Speak out your problems. A mother's love to do whatever she can for her children is stronger than any passion. Though it does depend on the mother. Open your mother's eyes to the truth- she seems to be stuck in the romantic side of the relationship- if it stays romantic you have nothing to worry about- cause a long relationship of romance not turning into nurturing won't last. You may very well have to take action while the guy is in your house. You have a voice God gave you to be heard- use it. History is repeating- has your mom had bad partnerships before? Do not just watch someone further destroy your family. Destiny is in your hands right now. Bring in your siblings in this--> maybe ask her to watch a movie- while you are sitting around shut the television off and say= We need to talk. you could always try family conseling or sit together one night and talk or scream and cry. You might need to just cry together. You need to do something because obviously no one else is doing something about this ordeal. Family happiness is the lagniappe you want. If you love your mother do not let her make a huge mistake. Do not pretend to be happy. Show you feel hurt. Cool beans? Funny a thirty year-old writing cool beans. And

Best Wishes.The one and only Tom J. Phillips

Now this is a family poem!

A true-blue-American one.

Pledge allegience to sadness...

...and we all fall down.

I like many lines in here very soap opera-ish; i hate those shows, so no it's better!