If I offend anyone with this, I am really sorry. I'm just saying what I think, and I'm happy to let you do the same!
Why can't people just be honest?
Why don't people talk about sex? There nothing wrong with it. I've had sex. So did your parents, otherwise you wouldn't be here. It's not as though there's anything wrong with it. It's a natural part of life.
It shouldn't be taken lightly, but it shouldn't be shoved in the corner either. It should be given only to the person who you know is right for you. It's a really private, personal thing. But there's still nothing wrong with talking about it. I sometimes think that if it was discussed more openly, then there wouldn't be so many problems with STDs and teenage pregnancy, because people would be able to talk to their parents, teachers or friends about how they were feeling, talk about it with someone who has already been in the situation. As it is, sometimes we're left in a very tricky position with nobody to talk to.
I certainly wish that there was someone I trusted enough that I could have confided in around the time that I started sleeping with my boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him over a year and a half ago, and we are still together now. I love him to pieces and have no regrets about anything, but it still would have been nice to be able to talk to someone before committing, just in case I had found that I was in too far over my head. Sex isn't all there is to a relationship, not by a long shot, but to most committed couples, it is normally a very big part.
Let's not be stuck-up about this. So many teenagers claim to be mature (I do it all the time, even though I often doubt that I am!) so why can't we act more like adults and talk about the bits that we don't understand? We're all human, after all. We all have the same feelings and urges when it comes to making love.
And that's another thing. I object to people referring to sex as 'making love' when they clearly don't love the person they're 'making love' to. One night stands, cheating partners... how can they refer to their lust as love in this way? Sex should be a part of love, but love is still a thousand times more powerful.
I find it odd that people in the music industry- supposedly role models for all us vulnerable teens- very rarely sing about any issues which really affect us. So there's the depressing music, the 'oh my God, I hate my life, I want to kill myself' which is fair enough if you're into that kind of thing, which I am at times. There's the teenybopper lot who sing 'ooh, how I love my baby' or something along the same lines. With the exception of a few, our role models are not living up to their roles.
Will Young is someone who people see as brave because he admitted to being gay very early on in his career. I find it hard to understand why someone could knowingly lie about who they really are, and sing 'You're the one good reason; you're the only girl that I need,' when he isn't that way inclined. I can't lie about who I am, or what I believe in. Being honest about ourselves and our feelings, especially when it comes to sex and relationships, is just about the hardest thing to do.
But if we could all just try a little harder to do it, I think it would destroy a lot of embarrassment surrounding some of these issues.