Topic: Teenagers are too young to be involved in BGR (boy girl relationship). Do you agree?

In this conservative society, a relationship in your teens could seem devastating to the people around you. But is it really possible to determine a right age to delve into a relationship? Is it really wrong to be involved in a boy girl relationship during your teens? No, I do not think so. And so today, we shall explore the possibilities.

Some people think that if you get into a relationship, it would be extremely devastating to your soul. They think that once you get into a relationship, you tend to throw in all your love at one shot since you are immature still, and if one day that certain boy/girl leaves you, you might not be able to take it. You might sink into depression or even seek suicide. But that’s just a myth if you would ask me.

Firstly, since you were ready to take on the challenge of a relationship, you have to be very mentally prepared of the day where your partner leaves you for good, and that requires a high level of maturity. If you were to say that teenagers commit suicide due to immaturity of not being able to deal with a broken relationship. I beseech you to open your eyes wider, look at the society of today, more and more “mature” adults are exploring the choice of suicide due to a broken marriage or even financial issues. In fact, sometimes the teenager in the family is the one who’s counseling their parents-“the supposedly matures”. Teenagers mature very quickly nowadays due to the harsh society and often they are even mentally stronger than a 35 year old adult. Not all teenagers will sink into depression and seek suicide due to a broken relationship, and it’s just unfair to stereotype all teenagers as immature brats just because we are more doted on by our parents nowadays.

Some people think that once a teenager gets into a relationship, it would be detrimental to their relationship with others- their friends, family-. The teenager will start to neglect all the other people around him or her and wants his or her life to only revolve around her significant other. Thus, in the process straining friendships and kinships… Also, the boy or the girlfriend might be extremely possessive and manipulative and disallow you from getting close to your friends and family. Then again, is it worth giving your love to someone like this? Extremely unfair to label teenagers as ungrateful brats-to their family and friends-, I would say.

It is not true that you would start neglecting all your friends and family once you get into a relationship. That thought itself is extremely selfish and unfair. There are so many in this society who has managed to maintain their friendships and kinships even when they get into a relationship. Some even bring their spouses out to gatherings with their friends or families, so as to let their spouses be more familiar with their social circle. Thus, the above argument is void too- for those who are able to manage his/her own time well.

Next, some people might argue that all guys are physically needy whereas all girls are emotionally needy. In which, boys want their spouses to satisfy them in the sexual way, asking their partners to perform sexual acts on them- where the female might not want, but do it anyway, so as to prevent the relationship from ending. Females would tend to want their spouses to spend more time with them, and satisfy them emotionally- I.e. talking to them, spending time to understand them etc.-, which guys might not want, and thus upsetting the girl. But this thought itself isn’t fair to the thousands and millions of unselfish souls around the world.

There are males around the world who is very considerate towards their girlfriends and sensitive to the feelings of their spouses. There are males who wouldn’t take sex as the most important thing in their life and just completely throw their spouses’ thoughts aside so as to get their clothes off. The argument above is completely and utterly unfair to the many selfless souls in the world. Many even practice cohabitation without sex, thus, the above argument is considered invalid.

In conclusion, amongst all the argument and rebuttal, I feel that age in not a matter to be concerned in a relationship, but most importantly, what matters most is whether you are emotionally wise enough to manage your time, your stress and your work well, and whether you are able to control your physical needs till marriage, with this factors in mind, I do not think that teenage relationship should cause a huge problem to the society at all.