WILL BE EDITED SOON!! APOLOGIES IN ADVANCE FOR THE AWFUL GRAMMAR!!

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Today we shall discuss a topic that has been itching in my mind for quite some time. Let’s begin:
what do u do when u r just dying to say something but can't because of strong bonds? one such as love? Imagine being completely pissed at the one that u love most in other words, b/f or g/f. He/she says something that just ticks u off, it was the last drop to the cup. Yet at the same time u just don't want to fight, not in the slightest. u, at all costs, avoid any type of argument, confrontation, fight. Your insides writhe in pain and agony as u burn in the desire to say something, anything, to hurt that person, but u love him/her so much u just can't say it. Yes, there is something as that last drop that tips the scale, and u let everything out. but what if your whole life has been surrounded by arguments, fights, tears, unwanted confrontations, agony from a fight that isn't even yours, but since u r related, u get affected . What to do then? Is there really a last drop in that case? I’m afraid there is...as much as I’d like to be completely tolerant, there isn't such a thing as full-avoidance of the argument. And when it arises, u have so many things inside u just don't know what to say. You want to say anything and everything that comes your way, but they r hurtful thoughts, towards the person in question and the one that is doing the thinking. See where this goes? You end up hating yourself, angry and in pain ...all because u didn't say anything b4. And yet at the same time u do not regret not having said so b4. it hurts, yes, but u r not hurting the one u love. Yet in not teaching them what bothers u, u r allowing them to repeat the mistake. There are many ways to deal with such occasion, one if which is unlikely to b carried out, but an option nonetheless. You could break that habit of not saying anything, and risk the person getting hurt. That, of course, is not the intention, but no one is assuring that he WILL get hurt...there is, of course, also no reassurance that they WON'T get hurt. u could also wait 'til your mind comes to the state of peace, in which time u can actually think better and more calmly, and then discuss the problem. u would then b ale to let it out, in a less hurtful way, and thus enlighten the person in that which bothers u, at which time he/she will learn or should learn not to carry out that action once more in times to come. there is also the not saying anything at all, but then the action will b carried out once more there's that chance, anyway. and so, u become an endless chain if thoughts and decisions, not really knowing which one to pick, until u reach the breaking point and hurt yourself...that is exactly why that question of "what to do then?" arises. Which option to follow? Risk the pain? Whose pain and break-down to risk? Is it really worth it? the answers...r chosen by he/she who undergoes the questions plenty of times and chooses what he/she finds is more appropriate for that relationship, in accordance to how the partner will take the different options and hence give out the results...