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Hey guys!

Well, my O levels has been over for almost three weeks…it’s so surreal to me that I can hardly believe it.

Anyway, I think whoever reads my stuff saw this coming…EVERYTHING IS ON HIATUS. Yep. Because yours truly is currently coaching basketball. =) And getting paid for it. =) Pretty much patching my life together.

Okay even I admit that that’s a pretty lame excuse for not writing. But to be more honest about certain things, I’m bored. I’m not inspired, since there’s no new dramatic issues I’ve had to face lately. No suicidal people, no fights, no idiots trying to bully me or my friends, no fights with my families, no very realistic nightmares or any of the other stuff that gives me emotional inspiration.

I mean, I HAVE been writing, to be honest. I just haven’t been updating. I’m really the worst kind of writer, because I need some emotions to convey onto my writing. People can really read into the depth of emotion that I pour into my stories and can also tell when I’m writing for the sake of writing. So yes, I have been writing quite a bit, but the plotline is currently a bit messed up, ShadowFighterX ending has already been done but the middle parts aren’t, Night Phantom’s redone Future Arc (whoops, spoiler) has been half done but I can’t link it up yet, and etc. Just so people know I’m not actually THAT lazy.

I really hope I haven’t disappointed anyone already (although I probably have…4 months of not updating? Or three?), but I guess its true that I really am trying to fulfill other commitments now. I first took up writing because I’ve always loved reading…and well I wasn’t playing serious basketball anymore. But now that I’m improving again and teaching people, as well as working out the various aspects of my life, like graduating from New Town (ugh), I really run out of time.

The good news is that I don’t leave things undone, even though I do take a long time. I WILL update Night Phantom and finish it, I WILL update ShadowFighterX and finish it. But not for a while. A long while.

While I’ll be finishing my plotlines on the sidelines( like I’m doing now and not updating them), I do still have spare time for some Q and A. I was really inspired by Youth Camp and some columnists talk about media, and hence I really hope that if you’re really doing nothing, you’d spend some time pouring your heart out to a total stranger who MAY understand what you’re going through. I may be sixteen, but don’t be cynical okay? Its not like I’ll purposely give you crappy advice. It’ll be on a new story, I think, so here’s a sample. Write to me and do review my Night Phantom and other stories at the same time.

As for any questions or even requests as to when I’ll update again, do feel free to write to me or leave me a review, thanks!

This is a question (more like series of questions), from John (not his real name), a friend of mine who I recently answered the question to. I already asked him if I could post .

I’ve never been a fan of the idea of premarital sex, but I’ve never been against it either. Lately my girlfriend and I have had a lot of sexual tension between us, but she’s also afraid because of a mistake she made in her past, yet she tries to insist she’s willing if I really want to do it. What should I do?

Well ‘John’, first of all there’s really a lot of things to consider here. Like statutory rape and whatever age limits they have to sex nowadays (he lives in Singapore like I do, so the highest they charge you for is 18), before you even THINK about it. I’m a teenage boy. I like the idea of sex as much as any other guy, but I also like the idea of not going to jail. Or having scars on my ass. Yeah.

Next of all, what is your religion and family like? I really get that everyone pretty much does premarital nowadays. So if you’re a Christian (like me. If you find it weird that a Christian is not outrageously condemning John for even considering premarital, its because I believe God also gave us free will) or some other religion that insists on burning you at the stake or disowning you from your family if you do such a thing, my advice would be to obviously get it out of your head.

Now that you’ve covered the basic bases, I have to ask you a few questions.

First of all, are you sure you haven’t been too pushy with your girlfriend regarding the issue of sex? I’m glad you haven’t forced her into it or anything (otherwise you wouldn’t have asked ME about it, genius) but really, subconscious verbal pressure can really do something to an emotionally vulnerable girl. Every guy wants it, trust me…I know, because I got tempted by a girl myself and barely got away.

I say emotionally vulnerable, because otherwise you wouldn’t have mentioned her past mistake to me. If she was raped or just lured into sex or something like that…well stereotypically or even factually, 99% are more physical than emotional, and for girls its vice versa. A guy may not think a whole lot about the deed itself but it can mean a lot to a girl-giving up her body. I’m sure that you’ve been through the whole sex-ed talk, so I shan’t elaborate on the emotional issues that premarital brings to a relationship when one of the parties becomes waaaayyy too clingy.

Think about the kind of girl your girlfriend is. Would she normally give in to you, letting you lead the relationship or is she just trying to make you happy even if she’s not comfortable with it?

Think about the possibilities. Its easy to hear the lecture; condoms and whatever protection is really effective nowadays. But that’s why there are still thousands of people getting abortions in this world. So ask yourself; are you prepared to be a father? Is the girl you’re dating now prepared to be the mother of your child?

Of course, you know where this is going. See, that’s why God invented marriage. Because it’s not only holy matrimony and etc, its also a safety net.

But I’ll be honest with you, I’m obviously not telling you what you want to hear, but what you need to hear, or what you already know. Pleasure only lasts for so long, but damaged emotions can last a lifetime. So if you’ve asked yourself all these questions and found that really, you can deal with the idea of being a dad or something, by all means go ahead and knock yourself out. Because people do something stupid everyday without thinking of the consequences, but the truth is; if they can deal with the consequences without much trouble because of proper thinking, cooperation and planning, maybe the thing they do isn’t really all that stupid.

Do take your time to think about it. =)

Anyway, John broke up with his girlfriend two weeks later. Not the best advice you can give to friends, but I’m pretty confident it was the right one. Because if you ever see me and them on the street I’d be just looking on and envying them-being in a deep emotional relationship and not knowing about it. They only broke up so they could keep their hands of each other. Personally, I think they’re happy.

What do you think?

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Do write to me, and I’ll be coming up with my column on FP soon! For any questions and requests about Night Phantom, do send me also!

PS: Singapore and staying in the vicinity, need bball coaching?

ShadowFighterX