Author: Kevin Velez PM
Have you or anyone you know been bullied before? How have you felt? How did the person you know felt? I, for one, is against bullying. Are you?Rated: Fiction K+ - English - Words: 997 - Published: 10-12-12 - Status: Complete - id: 3065061
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Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior by the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when the behavior is habitual and involves an imbalance of power. It can include verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims due to their race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target. Bullying is wrong and should be illegal everywhere around the world. There are three forms of bullying, emotional bullying, physical bullying, and verbal bullying. All three ways are horrible in their own ways.
Emotional bullying, or emotional abuse, is the most common form of bullying, and at the same time the least talked about. Part of the reason it is so easy for people to overlook is that so that much of what is considered normal and acceptable forms of communication is in fact abusive. Emotional bullying is a series of repeated incidents, whether intentional or not that insults, threatens, isolates, degrades, humiliates, and/or controls another person. Many people can not tell if they have been, or are being emotionally bullied or abused. In addition, a lot of emotional abuse doesn't appear to be severe or dramatic, although its effects can be. Unlike physical or verbal bullying, where a single incident can be considered bullying, emotional bullying is made up of a series of incidents, or a pattern of behavior that occurs over time. It may include a pattern of one or more of the following abuses: insults, criticisms, aggressive demands or expectations, threats, rejection, neglect, blame, emotional manipulation and control, isolation, punishment, terrorizing, ignoring, or teasing. Harassment, physical and sexual abuse, and witnessing abuse of others are also forms of emotional abuse. Emotional bullying can take place anywhere. At home, school, in relationships, and in the workplace. It's unclear whether males or females are more emotionally abusive, however, it seems that girls/women are more likely to use emotional abuse to gain control and power, while boys/men are more likely to use physical intimidation, aggression, and violence. Emotional bullying is not only under seen, but it's effects, most of the time, more devastating than physical abuse and had longer-term effects. "Emotional abuse cuts to the core of a person, attacking their very being. Emotional abuse, if frequent enough, is usually internalized by the victim, and leaves them feeling fearful, insignificant, unworthy, non-trust worthy, emotionally needy, undeserving and unlovable, and as if they were bad, deserving of punishment, and to blame. People who had went through emotional bullying often have a hard time understanding why they feel so bad about themselves. The abuse may not sound like much, and often people around them will minimize the experience, telling them it's not so bad. But the abuse has a deep and king lasting effect, attacking the very self-image and confidence of a person.
The second form of bullying is physical bullying. Physical bullying is when a person uses bodily acts to gain power over others. This form of bullying can include kicking, punching, hitting or other physical attacks. Unlike other types of bullying in society, physical bullying is easy to identify because the acts and effects are so obvious. Physical bullies tend to demonstrate high levels of aggression from a young age and are more likely to be boys. Physical bullying could also involve the use of non-lethal weapons in order to cause more harm to the target, or the threat of lethal force if the victim continues to resist or fails to be intimidated. Physical bullying is not limited to a school playground, however. It can also occur in the workplace or in the home as well. Of all the forms of bullying, physical bullying presents the most immediate threat of serious injury or even death for the victim. The most common idea behind physical bullying is to show the bully's superiority and his or her continued control over the victim. The continuation of physical bullying relies on the targets's unwillingness to take another attack or do anything which might trigger a bully's anger. Unlike other forms of bully-ism physical bullying often leaves an unambiguous trail of tangible evidence against the bully. Broken bones, bruising, cuts or scratches can all verify that a physical assault did indeed take place, even if the victim is unwilling or unable to identify his or her assailant. An intimidated target may lie that the injuries are accidental or work-related in order to avoid more trouble with a workplace or schoolyard bully. Physical bullying not only has an obvious physical component, but an emotional or mental aspect as well. Victims may feel depressed or powerless because they were unable to defend themselves against a bully.
The last form of bullying is verbal bullying. Verbal bullying happens when someone uses language, such as words, to gain power over others. The verbal bully uses constant insults and teasing to bully his or her peers. For instance, a verbal bully may make fun of a peer's lack of physical capabilities, may tease a peer for being a "dumb" or "nerd", and/or may call a peer names based on appearance. Verbal bullies are one of the more difficult types of bullies to identify since it tends to only happen when adults or superiors are not present. "Even though verbal bullying creates no physical damage, this type of abuse can have lasting psychological impacts on targets.
All in all, bullying is wrong and looked down on by so many people, but at the same time, barely any actions ever happens to prevent it as it is still happening all over the world. Something must happen before devastating effects happen, such as suicide or becoming criminals. It is up to the state government to handle the situation I believe. Bullying must be extinguished.