A Lesson In Cheering Yourself Up
* * * * * * * * * * * * Author's Note: This is just a collection of thoughts about life designed to inspire you at those times in life when you feel really, really, down and think you're life isn't worth living. News Flash: Live is always worth living. It's never too hard to keep going! No matter what, you are who you want to be- nothing can change that. * * * * * * * * * * * *

Lesson One: The World's Problems

When you're feeling down and out, when you're wishing you were someone else, when you think you're life is not worth living, it helps not to watch the news. There are many awful things happening in the world which you cannot influence directly- if you try and solve all the problems in the world, your life will suck, and you'll have so many problems of your own, the world's problems will seem small in comparison. Trust me, I learnt this the hard way- and you should learn from other people's mistakes as you won't live long enough to make them all yourself. I'm not saying that forgetting about the world's problems will make them go away, I'm simply saying that the only way to successfully effect change is to change yourself. The best time to do this is probably not when you're wishing you were dead.

In my personal experience, a lot of the time when you feel absolutely miserable, it's because you feel helpless. You feel like you are powerless to stop injustices. While this is true to some extent, it is not entirely true. One voice can be heard. If we all thought we were to small, imagine where we'd be. Often problems as a whole can seem huge and completely over- whelming. It's good to start with a small aspect of the problem and work on that. The success will boost your self-confidence and motivate you to keep going. This principle doesn't necessarily have to apply to the world's problems, it can also work within your own life. Next time you think something is too hard or too big to tackle, try this strategy. Often you'll find solving your problems isn't as hard as you thought. And always remember: changing the world starts in your own backyard.

If you try to carry all the worries of the world on your shoulders, sooner
or later you'll get a bad back.

Bradley Trevor Greive

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Lesson Two: Discovering Yourself

When you feel like you've lost touch with who you are, stop and think about this: No one really knows who they are. We are always between who we are and who we can be. As for who you are, you are a unique individual who is trying to become a better person. You are someone who has had many wonderful and enjoyable experiences. Someone who has learnt a lot about themselves and life. You are a person just discovering what life is about and what you believe in. You are in the middle of who you are and the best person you can be. Always be your own star, starring in your own show, on your own stage. It's Ok to be incomparably strange. Remember: You are not abnormal, everyone else is just weird!

It's human to want to be perfect. It's also impossible. Always bear in mind that everyone makes mistakes- they're nothing to be ashamed of- if at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Never give up because you fail. No matter how many times you get it wrong, if you keep endeavouring to achieve your goal, eventually you'll get it right. You've got to be in it to win it- never hang back, get out there and go for it. You have to be able to say, "Yeah, I might be wrong, but I'm going to try it anyway!" It doesn't matter if you make a complete fool of yourself- look how many rich, famous people have done that. Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, Peter Hollingworth (the Australian Governor General), so many actors and actresses it's not worth starting on them, heaps of athletes everywhere. to be successful, you have to overcome massive hurdles- it's Ok to have trouble the first time, the second time, the third time, in fact, it's Ok to struggle until you get it right.

"Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising every time
we fall."


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Lesson Three: Being Happy

You are the only person responsible for your health, happiness and your life. If you want to be happy, you have to search for happiness, if you want to do something with your life, the only thing stopping you is yourself. Whatever you want to do you have to do it. Regardless of what other's say. If someone is annoying you, teasing you or putting you down- ignore them. Everyone has the right to claim individuality and be respected because they are an individual. If someone can't do that, they're not worth your time.

In a way, we all put our future happiness in the hand's of those we love. We all need those people, whether they know it or not. If at times you feel like the one left standing all alone in the pouring rain looking in on a happy scene with no way of being a part of it, you're not the only person who feels like that. (Although there will be a part of you saying: wanna bet!?!) You will always have people who love you and you will always have memories of times you cherish. When the going gets rough, remember those people and those memories as an inspiration to keep going.

It is worth while considering that the only way we are truly happy is when we give to others and make otheries happy. Never tire of giving. What goes around comes around. If you give to others, it will eventually come back to you. Money can buy nothing of any lasting value. You can not purchase friendship and love does not come in a bottle. Happiness is worth more than 1000's of precious jewels and is not found in material things or worldly pursuits. Everyone can be happy: regardless of your situation. It's all a matter of accepting what you have, the fact that you're life could be better and working to improve it.

"Often an ocean of sadness borders on the shores of paradise- keep swimming
and you'll make it."

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Lesson Four: Life, It's What You Make It

Life- it's what you make it. What is holding you back from making your life what you want it to be? Haunting you with past issues and experiences that won't let you live your life to the full? How can you let go of this emotional baggage ASAP? It's really important that you realise how special you are to be an individual. It's really important to believe in yourself and your own abilities. It's also important to be self-confident. You have to believe you will do well and be confident in what you do. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in. It's better to apologise than to have regrets.

It's also important you have something to be passionate about. It doesn't matter what that something is, and if other people think it's for losers. That thing you are passionate about will help you be passionate about life. Never live in the past but use your past experiences to aid and guide you in the present. Life is a journey and everyone in going somewhere, it's just a matter of finding out where. Every second of every day is a part of your life that cannot be replaced- live each day as if it was your last, because one day it will be.

Life is like a game of cards. How are you going to play the hand it deals


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