The Practical Guide To efficient review communications
note: So many times I have seen guides to go over techniques on how
to review and criticize, but they all have not worked well. I have
a multitude of them and have found that people have still missed it. They all seem to rant about almost the same things, and none of them has significantly
helped. I hope to write this guide to really assist people to review better, and not just rant. This is going to be different, and maybe I'll discuss similar
things, but I believe my suggestions are different. I'll base my methods on techniques suggested in Dale Carnegie's book.
I've seen reviews that are either
ruthlessly cruel, demanding, typically critical, just filled with all
fake charm, filled with gloating, are illogical,
appears unclear, or other such mistakes. The problem here is a lack of efficient communications and nothing more. I understand, I am not the best communicator
either, and that I need work, but I've improved, and I've immediately seen results. The typical suggestions are not in here, but read on if you wish to
communicate better. This guide will not only help aid your review methods, but will give you a better way of communicating, so people might actually listen
to you. It will help you be heard and taken seriously. This will not only help in reviews, but could be taken in to practice in the world.
The biggest problem I've seen and people complain of
this all the time is all the praising. I will not tell you to not to
praise, or even that praises are
bad. I've heard people say that all the time. I've also heard that you just need to explain your praises, and that's closer, but that's not my tip either.
Now, why do little children throw tantrums?
Right, they want attention! Why do people at any given location make a big deal about something.
Yes, they want that attention too.
Everyone wants attention and wants to feel important. Go on and deny it, but if you think about it, it's true.
Making fake remarks won't
help the problem at all. It's easy to distinguish the difference
between a genuine praise and a fake one. If one is fake, you
can feel it. If you know this person is pretending to make you feel important, but they are not doing it, because they are faking it, it's not impressive
and we don't feel it at all, thus we know we aren't really important to them.
In order to fix that problem, we have to mean it. When you review, only praise when you really think it's really good and be sincere.
"I like it!"
They all sound very very brief and don't necessarily mean anything. With sincerity you should explain what you like, and point out there good things.
The descriptions were very vivid. I could actually
imagine the green grass and smell the lemons on that tall lemon tree.
Now, that story over all was just
a really creative piece, and I would also like to praise you on your vocabulary as it was diverse.
Yes, it's a bit long, but longer is better then
shorter. This makes it look like you care about there piece and have
read it. It also shows you have payed
attention to it, could get personal, not praising because you feel like you have too, and you mean what you said. If you feel like you have to praise because
you have to, it's better to say nothing. Fake charm doesn't help either of you. It's just going to be another review and not another good worthwhile review.
Now, the one thing you also want to do is sound clear.
"you have a few grammar mistakes here and there, but good. Lol! Lik it! THX!"
Wow! That was so not
sincere, why did you bother to click that button? People don't want
to hear it if it's not from your heart, and they get frustrated
so they want to rant.
So, be true to your praises, be sincere, explain, and be clear.
Now for criticism. Well,
right, that's an issue in itself. People today is so caught up in
ME! Yes, self importance is extremely important. I also value
it, but I've also learned a good gain is a gain for both parties. No, I don't mean don't criticize or shut up! No, on the contrary, I think wrongs needs
to be improved and there is a better way then it is done now.
The first tip is this:
People will not
fix anything, if you rant about what you prefer, and your opinion.
Express your opinion without pointing that out. Don't put the light
yourself, but on them. Turn this critique around and tell them how they can gain from it.
"I hate this story. I think your
grammar is awful. You can't write, and you should die. Your
formatting is bad too! Ow! My eyes now hurts, and I have a
headache! It sucks! It's so hurts my brains!You spelled a lot of things wrong. Your characters were also under developed. Your plot goes too fast."
How do you feel about that? You like it?
I think your story could do with improvement, as you will
attract more people to read it. If you develop your characters, you
could progress to the point
where your readers can imagine it. It's often good to have them picture the person fully. It will hold them longer, and you will gain more reviews. I might
also suggest that you make your story readable. That will help your readers read all the way through, so you might have more reviews. The easier it is
to read the more people will enjoy it. That will make people want to comment more. You will have reviews that you desire, that praises your work. I might
also suggest expanding the plot. that will greatly help the confusion be less and thus will clear problems, so you won't be answering questions at all.
It will be a more relaxing job for you, and you will also be a much better writer.
Now, I think that sounds good. I admit, it wasn't
the best, I myself need some practice in suggesting, but that gets us
somewhere. Also explain how it is
bad and not just point it out. Suggest not command.
If you need to flame, I suggest you
don't, because it gets nothing better, and it just looks bad on the
flamers part and the writer gets upset. Instead,
when you want to insult them, think of why that is. Explain why it's so bad to yourself and write the things down as suggestions. You now become more pleasant
and some productivity is achieved. Insulting the story results in nothing good, so if it's avoidable, I do suggest that you do.
If it's a matter of personal opinion and you
want to disagree, argue, or insult because of it then don't do it.
Start your own journal to do it if you want
but not in a review. I suggest it, because it will just cause fights that won't help anything. It will just create hard feelings, and an unwanted grudge.
Especially an autobiography, they can't do anything to change it and neither can you. It's illogical to argue about a pass event if it's not up for discussion.
I suggest this because as you will find you will make things easier.
I was talking to
this person who wrote an autobiography. They asked me as we discussed
things, why I didn't criticize his autobiography. I told him,
was pointless, and we'd just get in a fight for no reason. He then informed me, that he was glad of it, because if I had argued, he' wouldn't have changed
anyways. I told him, that was exactly why I didn't criticize him. So, now we are still talking, and although I don't agree, there is no argument. We are
So, that's why it's important to know where to criticize and where to not.
Just very minor
things, mostly regarding how to start one and end one. I suggest that
you try to find there name on there profile or on there work, and
if you can't find it, put down there penname name at the top.
Greetings mrs. Ginny Black
This will seem more personal to them and as there names means a lot to them, it will make them feel important
At the end sign your name or penname. If possible, do your name. This will help you get closer, and seem more real.
the three parts together and you have a pretty good review. This will
help you very much so, and I hope my explanations helps you too. I
hope you take
my suggestions in to consideration. I hope you take it with you and apply it.
Here are some reviews I Submitted.
Yes, I still need a bit of improvement, but it's getting there.
Quite interesting. I rather like it. It sounds nice where you live and it sounds peaceful as you describe it. It's particularly interesting to find out
what inspires you to write. I love your
description, it makes readers be able to imagine it. I can actually
imagine that peaceful river and see it in my
mind, and the same with your expansive backyard. Nice vivid picture you paint.
For the most part, it was great. I like that attitude about that man. Some people are truly like that.
"Don't be late."
Was a bit abrupt. Perhaps you could add another word or a few such as
I'd be glad too.
Wow, you want to go out with me?
Oh, um! I suppose!
Sure, why not.
Thanks, Yes, I'll go out with you.
It will make your story flow, and so you can improve your writing if you take this suggestion.
Author's note: I've applied
some of these principals for myself recently, and I didn't think
they would result in much. I was proven wrong, however, and
my reviews for the most parts worked more efficiently. I suggest Carnegie to anyone who wish to help themselves be a better person. I've taken these suggestions
quite literally, bearing immediate changes, and quite a difference to what I am use to. My results astonished me, and if you use this method of reviewing,
maybe you will get good results also. Now, everytime I open up my e-mail, I feel more relieved and happy. I am not so weary of flames, and now find pleasure
in reading review replies.