What does it mean to love?

Does it mean we are willing to sacrifice ourselves?

Give up our lives, so that we don't have to suffer living without them.

It's selfish, we don't think about the effects it will have on the person we love.

Leave them forever scarred, while we have no cares in the world.

It seems love makes us cowardly and selfish!

I'm too selfless for this idea of love. Shouldn't you be willing to suffer for the one you care so much for?

So I wonder who is more selfless?

The one that dies for another, or the one that lives on with the pain.

The pain of knowing they will never be that happy again. That the person they want most, selfishly wanted them to live.