it's nice; this feeling of being around beings
who doesn't discredit my life
every time they open their mouths.
who understand that i
am not the one who needs to be teaching them
how to behave around me.
they have to learn that for themselves.
it's their job, not mine.
my job is to be myself. to be kind.
to, as i sometimes put it oh-so-eloquently, not be a douche.
'don't be a douche,' i say.
'don't be a douche.' it sounds
it should be.
it should be everybeing's job to not
be a douche,
and it should be everybeing's job
to be themself.
why is that so hard?
no one should be used to knowing
that if they open their mouth and
say what they really feel
they will be dismissed as easily as blinking.
no one should listen to their friends' conversations,
feeling that pit of hate in their stomach
because they hear their closest friends laughing at who they are.
not knowing is no longer an excuse.
it is your job to know, to ensure everyone feels comfortable around you.
or if not comfortable, then
with an experience different than their own.
confrontation should not be the method
we must choose to teach others.
others need to teach themselves,
teach themselves so we have no one left to confront.
it's really not that hard.