You only have three choices in life. Just three. It may seem hard to believe. After all, there are millions upon billions of possible situations one might find oneself in, and all of these situations have thousands of possible choices one can make with an unsurmountable number of outcomes. That's wrong though. There are only three. Three choices you can make in your life that will determine how you live. You see, life is simple. We often find it hard to believe that life can be so simple. We want things to be complicated because we want to complicated ourselves. We don't want to settle for things being easy, because if things are easy then we have no excuses. If life is simple, why is it so hard? Life is hard because of our choices.
Skylar couldn't take it anymore. It was just too difficult. He had to leave her. He thought he loved her, but maybe he was wrong. She had been gone for three weeks and he didn't think he could do it. Kat was away at college and he had stayed home. They were only eighteen but they had been together for three and a half years. He couldn't do long distance. He wasn't sure how he could do it. He had been talking to his best friend Mark about it and he knew he had to do it. He had to let her go. He had been joking with his friend Dan earlier that week. Dan had told him to just do it over text message. They were just kidding around, but still. Skylar's phone went off. It was a text from Kat. "I think we can make this work. I love you and that's all that really matters. I'm confident we can make it. We can do this." He sighed and after a long pause, he hit send.
"I don't think we can."
That was the first choice.
Crying is hard to hide when someone is sleeping six feet away from you. That's dorm life. Kat had been crying for weeks. Every night since Skylar had ended it. She had gone home in the hopes that she could talk to him and fix it. She was wrong. There was nothing she could have done. She was still crying, but this time it was for a different reason. It wasn't because she missed him or because she wanted back what she couldn't have. It was because he had hurt her. He had made her feel worthless, unimportant, unwanted. He had made her hate him. Kat hated Skylar for what he did to her. She had spent so much time crying over him. All of the false hope he had given her about it working out someday, just to crush it so callously. She was done with it. He said he still wanted to be friends but how could she believe him? He didn't really try very hard in his current friendships, why should she be any different? She hadn't decided yet whether or not she could handle being friends with him. Kat's phone went off. It was a text from Skylar. "Hey there. What's up?"
She put her phone away.
That was the second choice.
Kat was breathless. Had that really just happened? Mark had become her best friend since his best friend and her ex boyfriend, Skylar, had left her after three and a half years. Kat, Mark, Natalie, and Alec had been at the mall hanging out after the school musical. Alec was playing in the orchestra and all of his older friends in college had come to see the performance. They decided to go the park after that. Alec had come separately and Kat had driven Mark and Natalie. The second they all got in the car Mark said "You like him. You are so flirting." He smiled at Kat. She blushed. "Shut up!" she yelled. Mark just laughed "I'm totally going to set you up." They got to the park and met up with Alec again. Mark started teasing Kat and she walked off pretending to be angry. She wasn't ok though. She had seen Skylar at the musical. She had asked him to lend her a phone charger and he was going to see the musical too so he just gave it to her there. What Kat hadn't realized was that he was there with someone. Ellen. A girl that Skylar had been in orchestra with and one of Kat's friends as well as his. She walked up with him and she couldn't look Kat in the eye. She knew what that meant. "Kat! Where are you!" Mark called out. "Over here. Jerk." Kat replied jokingly. "Are you ok?" He asked with real concern in his voice. "No" she answered as she started to cry. She and Mark went to go talk. She talked about how she couldn't believe he would give up on her after all that time. He just threw her away. "Alec likes you, you know. He just doesn't want to get involved if the long distance thing won't work." Kat looked up in surprise. "That was Skylar's issue not mine. I'm perfectly willing to make it work." Mark smiled. "I know you are." Kat paused for a moment then said "You should tell him that." At that moment Alec and Natalie caught up with them. They all agreed to stop back at Mark's house to pick up his guitar and then go to Alec's for a bonfire. Mark insisted on riding with Alec. Mark and Alec arrived before Kat and Natalie. Kat pulled up next to Alec's car and rolled down the window. He looked at her strangely. Almost a little shocked. "We're going to your house right?" She was laughing. "Yeah we'll meet you there." Everyone headed back to Alec's house and Mark and Alec tried to start a bonfire with minimal success. Soon it became hopeless and they all went inside to watch TV. Everyone was laughing and having a good time. Kat could barely breathe. She knew he knew. She had started liking Alec while she was still with Skylar. She chose Skylar over Alec, but Skylar chose himself over her. She still liked Alec. The time came when Kat had to drive Mark and Natalie home. As they were walking out, Alec turned to her and said "Kat, speaks." He pulled her over into his backyard and started cautiously "So Mark told me some things in the car." Kat stopped breathing. "Oh did he now?" Alec laughed a little shakily "He did, and I'm willing to make it work if you are." Kat smiled "Well I am." Alec smiled back at her "Good." Kat went to hug him and during the embrace he stuttered "Oh...that's not what I was going for." Kat was confused. "Well what were you going for?" He looked at her for a second.
Then he kissed her.
That was the third choice.
So you see, explained thusly life seems unbearably complex. If you really look though you can find the beautiful simplicity in the choices that had to be made. You can see that regardless of what situation we are in, we always have the same choices that we must make. They can either be a help or a hinderance, depending on our choice. Our ever complicated lives are really very simple, because at the end of the day we just have to choose.
We can either run,
Or move forward.